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             Modern boys are losing ground in several key areas, but education may be the most significant.  For the first time in our Nation’s history, boys have less education than their fathers.[i] The education pendulum has swung so radically in one direction that women are surpassing men in every aspect of education.  Girls are outshining boys in academic performance, SAT scores, and in participation in debate clubs, student council, and other extracurricular activities.  Meanwhile, boys are leading the way in drop-out rates,

Doctrinally, most of us understand the charge to become like Christ.  After all is said and done, that quest should be paramount in our lives.  When Jesus visited the Nephites, he asked then, “What manner of me ought ye to be?  Verily I say unto you, even as I am” (3 Nephi 27:27).  This verse especially applies to our parenting.  What kind of parents should we be striving to be?  Even as Jesus Christ would parent!

Several years ago when I lived in the Dallas area, there was a sports show that aired during prime time.   The host, Randy Galloway, affectionately called the show “Wimp Free Sports Talk.”  It was a “no-holes-barred” type of program where the host commentated on the professional sports teams in the Dallas area, blasting players, coaches, and management for poor performances, unwise management decisions, and a plethora of other sports related topics.  Randy Galloway would really “call it like he saw it,” and he wasn’t afraid to go toe to toe with anyone.

“What of the meek? In a world too preoccupied with winning
through intimidation and seeking to be number one, no large
crowd of folk is standing in line to buy books that call for
mere meekness. But the meek shall inherit the earth, a pretty impressive
corporate takeover—and done without intimidation!
--President Howard W. Hunter[1]

One core problem in marriage that fights against meekness is criticism. According to marriage expert, Dr. John Gottman, criticism leads to defensiveness, and defensiveness leads to withdrawal. In fact, Dr. Gottman has identified in his research that criticism and defensiveness are two key components in marriage that predict separation and divorce. Defensiveness is an automatic, emotional reaction to criticism which is hard to resist engaging in in. Being defensive is a defense mechanism.

In Alma 7, we can learn how to live a life of meekness. Alma taught his followers,

And now I would that ye should be humble, and be submissive and gentle; easy to be entreated; full of patience and long-suffering; being temperate in all things; being diligent in keeping the commandment of God at all times; asking for whatsoever things ye stand in need, both spiritual and temporal; always returning thanks unto God for whatsoever things you do receive.

And see that ye have faith, hope, and charity, and then ye will always abound in good works (Alma 7:23-24).

At the beginning of this article, I mentioned my friend Rob and how his defensiveness hindered his marriage.  A few weeks later, Rob related to me that his wife is not a complainer.  In fact, he said that she is actually a positive person.  Because I knew his wife, I agreed with his assessment.  Furthermore, since Rob was a good friend, I asked him, “Why would you be so defensive when your wife makes suggestions that will improve your finances, or your home, or a child’s life?”  Rob related to me that because of his own lack of confidence in some areas of his life, he perceived some of his

Every married couple should be committed to growth in their marriage. It is not enough to treasure the good days and ignore the bad ones. We must be striving for constant improvement. One way for couples to enhance their marriages is to incorporate Christlike virtues into their relationship, such as kindness, charity, humility, and forgiveness. One Christlike attribute that can make a significant difference towards the joy and satisfaction in all marriages is often overlooked—that of meekness.